Let’s face it, I don’t exactly post here any more. The reason for that is twofold. First, I went to university and didn’t really have the time any more. Secondly, I’d gotten to 399 and wanted my 400th post to be meaningful somehow. So because I’ve left this so long, I’m deciding that this will be my final post. At least here. I have a blog on Tumblr, which I update every day.
So check me out here instead: victoriomantic.tumblr.com
I leave you all with an overview of my first year of university, to round this all off. Thank you for reading.
Believe me when I say I’m finding it hard to comprehend that I’ve finished my first year already. I don’t think I’m the only person who is entirely confused by the speed at which time seems to be flying. I’m sure that 60 seconds to a minute, 60 minutes to an hour, 24 hours to a day, 7 days to a… et cetera… does not really last that long. Blink and you’ve missed the week. It’s scary and also sad to see that time doesn’t really last very long any more. You seem to glance around and realise just how much time has passed and just how little you’ve actually achieved in that time. I mean, it’s almost the end of June (and I finished uni more than a week ago, and been home nearly a week) already, and I still haven’t gotten any of my projects off the ground yet.
But I digress. That’s not what this is about.
Funnily enough, on exactly this day a year ago, I finished my A-levels and therefore officially finished my third and final (extra) year of college. I was facing a long, long summer… and then university (assuming I got in). I was so excited and so nervous. I literally had no idea what to expect. I tried not to think about it *too* much before getting my A-level results, in case I failed to get in. (Which in itself was something I didn’t want to think about either, as a fourth year of college would have been entirely out of the question). And then when I got all my results and knew I was going into university, it was all I could think about.
As the summer holidays went on, I got more and more excited, until it got to late August, early September. Then the nerves kicked in and I started feeling worse and worse. Luckily I’d already made friends with C online before going to uni, but I was still really anxious about making friends. I’ve never done very well at making friends. I seem to be really close to people for a while and then suddenly they go off me and hate me. Also, C and I had chatted online, but meeting someone is person is obviously a lot different and there was no way of knowing that we would get along.
I was (wrongly) feeling secure about Matt and I, which was a worry off my mind, although I was still kind of worried that me being far away would give him problems. But then the opposite actually happened. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I’M SUCH A NAIVE FUCKING IDIOT. …But I’m not even going there right now or I’ll end up punching a hole through the laptop or going on a murderous rampage.
Anyhow. My university room was so much better than I had expected, but I still HATED my first week there. It was Fresher’s week and I didn’t really have all that much to do, especially since I’m not one to go out. I had no course to get involved with and more or less spent the whole time sat indoors moping. I ended up going home for the weekend because the homesickness was making me incredibly depressed. And besides, there was a Fallout (a goth/industrial night) that week, so I figured I’d go there and have a nice time instead.
Slowly but surely I ended up settling down a little. I threw myself into my course, and allowed myself to get properly engaged and involved with it. As usual (since I’m pathetic and have no decent hobbies), being able to study hard helped distract me and calm me. I began to feel a lot better in and of myself, so things got better. I started developing decent friendships. C and I did have some troubles for a while but after Christmas they evened out.
I was always intimidated by the thought that university gives you a few months to make decent enough friends that you’d be willing to live with them. Especially with the troubles we were having, I thought I would really struggle… Also, the window to find a house was very short and it stressed me out. But as most of you know, my friends and I got lucky and managed to nab a lovely, university-owned house that’s just 15 minutes away from the centre of campus. I had a wobbly moment of homesickness on the first day back after Christmas but other than that, I settled straight back in.
After exams, we had almost two weeks off, but I was only able to go home for half a week. For the other 7 days, I just met up with my friend N a lot (because of our group, she was the one I didn’t know very well) and we bonded really, really nicely.
I got really nice exam results from my first semester (firsts in everything, yay!) which more or less confirmed to me that I was doing something right. So from there on I had no troubles at all. From the start of semester two I just felt better and better. Homesickness was like a nightmare from the past. I was looking forward to coming home for Easter, and then of course a certain special someone decided to grab hold of my personal life and my heart, tear them into a thousand pieces, scatter them into the wind, and then throw my happiness to the kerb and stamp on its face. So actually, fleeing back to university was some sort of respite for me. I actually felt *better* at university than I did at home! Tell me that when I started and I would have thought you were crazy. (But then I probably would have called you crazy anyway if you told me the reason why I felt bad at home was because the “best thing in my life” was actually a massive pile of lies and shit).
Now though, I’d think you were even crazier, because now I’m at home, I am actually missing university. I miss my friends, I miss my course, I miss my room and I miss the campus. I am so glad I settled in so well, eventually, but I am also so sad that the time has flown so quickly. I can’t believe I’ve finished my first year of university already. I bet I’ll be finishing my fourth year before I know it :(
I can’t wait to get back to my course. It’ll be a LOT more difficult next year but it will also be heaps and heaps more interesting. I also can’t wait to move in with my friends :3 And I’ve promised myself that I will actually bother to go to MADsoc regularly, so that’s something good as well. I am going to be SO busy next year.
I was terrified that I would end up hated and outcasted as usual, and that I wouldn’t be able to find people to live with in my second year. But I feel like I have actually made decent friends. I was worried I’d feel out of place since I don’t drink (because hell, let’s face it, I feel pretty ostracised over the fact I don’t drink, including by the one fucking person who is supposed to have my back, always) but luckily my friend group either can’t or won’t drink heavily, so that’s a relief.
I actually managed to feel at home at university (despite a dodgy and wobbly start), and enjoyed my course and now I miss it and my friends. I do have plans for the summer (we’ll see if they work out :/), which hopefully will go well, but I am looking forward to going back in the summer. I’m sure I’ll have a beautiful time since I get to live with people I care about, and my course gets more interesting.